Outrage after French army’s ‘prepare to lose your child’ warning

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Anger after French army's 'prepare to lose child' warning
General Fabien Mandon arriving for a meeting with President Emmanuel Macron earlier this week

The General’s Warning: France, Sacrifice and a Country Uneasy About War

When the chief of France’s armed forces stood before a room of mayors in a provincial town and spoke bluntly about the cost of defending the nation, his words landed like a stone dropped into still water — sharp rings of debate, anger and unease spreading outwards.

“If our country falters because it is not prepared to accept — let’s be honest — to lose its children,” said General Fabien Mandon, the chief of the defence staff, in a speech that has since been replayed, dissected and denounced across radio studios and kitchen tables. He pressed beyond abstract strategy: he spoke of willingness to suffer, of priorities shifted to defence production, of a people steeled to endure hardship to protect what they are.

For some, that frankness is the duty of a soldier. For others, it read as a provocation — a warmongering line overstepping the fence between military counsel and political alarmism.

A nation split between memory and comfort

Walk through any French town and you will see the collision of two stories. In the square, an elderly man trims a geranium outside a mairie. In the café, a mother scrolls through her phone, the radio murmuring foreign correspondents’ dispatches from Ukraine. The country shows the scars of two world wars in war memorials and names engraved on bronze plaques. Yet there is a modern comfort, too: a sense that nuclear deterrence, alliances and economic power have kept the fires away from domestic soil for decades.

“We remember Verdun and the villages emptied,” said Bénédicte Chéron, a historian who has written on France’s wartime memory. “That memory makes the French reluctant to accept mass mobilization unless the threat is immediate and territorial. Sacrifice for abstract values is a harder sell.”

That tension — between historical memory and present-day security anxieties — frames the furious political debate. Left and right, municipal leaders and party heads, have all taken aim at General Mandon’s words. Fabien Roussel of the French Communist Party condemned what he called “unbearable warmongering rhetoric.” Louis Aliot of the National Rally asked rhetorically whether many French people would in fact be ready “to go and die for Ukraine.” Christian Estrosi, the mayor of Nice, called the tone “shocking,” asking whether the chief of staff’s role includes worrying the nation in such a way.

Defence Minister Catherine Vautrin pushed back. “This is military language rendered blunt by a man who every day knows that young soldiers risk their lives for the nation,” she told reporters — arguing the general’s realism was being politicized. Europe Minister Benjamin Haddad described the speech as “lucid and honest” about a threat many in Paris take seriously.

What the general said — and what it implies

Mandon did not couch his warning in metaphors. He argued that Russia, having launched its full-scale invasion of Ukraine in February 2022, is preparing for a broader confrontation — he set a horizon, urging officials to brace for the possibility of a clash by 2030. “It is organising for this, preparing for this,” he said, warning of a Moscow convinced that NATO and Western nations are its existential adversary.

In his account, the coming decade is not one of gradual diplomacy but of preparation and potential confrontation. That prospect forces questions: how far should democracies go in readiness, and at what cost? If defence production becomes the economy’s priority, who pays — and how many children do we consider an acceptable loss?

These are brutal questions; they have always been brutal. But in a France that has spent recent years debating pensions, public services and the price of bread, they feel remote and, for many, apocalyptic.

Voices from the cafés, the barracks and the street

Not all reactions fit neatly into party lines. In a café in Amiens, a retired schoolteacher named Luc told me, “I support the troops, but speaking of losing our children — that’s for the politicians to clarify. Clarity is what we need, not fear.”

A young corporal stationed near Toulon, speaking on condition of anonymity, said, “We train for the worst. Hearing the chief of staff speak plainly is sobering. But the public must know what they’re asking of those who follow orders.”

In a mountain village near the Pyrenees, Mayor Solène Martín said the speech woke people up. “We’re not theologians of war here; we grow grapes and buy bread. But when the state tells us to prepare, we listen. The question is: will support for soldiers be sustained beyond headlines?”

Preparing citizens: a government manual and an emergency kit

The controversy is colliding with policy. The government quietly published a guide titled “Everyone Responsible,” a primer aimed at asking citizens to prepare for major crises — whether natural disasters or an external aggression. It’s the sort of practical, domestic step that avoids political grandstanding but signals seriousness.

The guide advises every household to maintain an emergency bag — checked twice a year — containing essentials. Among the recommended items:

  • non-perishable food and water for several days
  • basic medicines and personal prescriptions
  • a battery-powered radio and spare batteries
  • copies of identity documents and emergency contact information
  • small comforts for children — books or games

“It sounds banal, but preparedness builds psychological resilience,” said Claire Fontaine, a civil security expert in Lyon. “People who feel equipped to manage short-term crises are less likely to panic and more able to support collective action.”

Beyond France: a European and global dilemma

This debate is not purely French. Across Europe, leaderships balance support for Ukraine with fears of escalation. NATO members have increased defense cooperation and material aid, but most underscore that they are not direct belligerents. Public opinion has been mixed: many Europeans express solidarity with Ukraine while also wary of being pulled into an open-ended contest with a nuclear-armed Russia.

What this means for global politics is profound. Democracies now face an old question in a new context: how do you maintain freedom and security without eroding the civil liberties, economic stability and social trust that make open societies desirable in the first place?

Questions we must ask together

How much discomfort will citizens accept to keep distant wars from becoming domestic crises? What is the role of military leaders in shaping public debate? Should generals speak bluntly about potential sacrifices, or should political leaders absorb that messaging and frame it in democratic terms?

These are not rhetorical tricks; they are governance questions. And they deserve more than soundbites. They require national conversations — about budgets and conscription and industry, about who bears the burdens and who benefits.

For a France that still carries battlefields in its memory, the balancing act will be especially fraught. The nation must find a language that neither infantilizes citizens nor incites needless panic. It must also reckon with whether its alliances and deterrents are enough, or whether a new posture of readiness is required.

As you read this from a terrace in Toulouse, an apartment in Lagos, or a hostel in Kraków — what would you pack in your emergency bag? What price would your society pay to protect not only its borders, but its way of life? The questions are intimate and enormous. And as the conversation unfolds, one thing is clear: the debate about readiness, sacrifice and national character has only just begun.